Timing is EVERYTHING!!!!!!!

PimpSay................So I have a friend, let's call her Mary. Mary calls me one Sunday afternoon all worked up and upset over this new guy she had been hanging out with for the past few weeks. Being the concerned friend i am, i asked her "What happened?' Mary tells me that they had been hanging out all weekend @ his place, having fun and doing what grown folks do. I'm like, okay, cool. Mary then tells me that the plan for Sunday was to just lay around all morning and maybe have brunch before she took herself and her toothbrush home. "Sounds good to me" Sometime Sunday morning, right in the middle of spooning, he gets a phone call. He makes some innocuous nondescript comments and hangs up the phone. He then turns to Mary and tells her that she has to leave because his girlfriend changed her flight and is coming in early. So my girl Mary thinks that NOW is the best time to ask the obvious question, "You have a girlfriend?"Not afraid to repeat himself, he says yes and tells her again that she's gotta go. So Mary jumps out of bed throws on her clothes (didn't wash her ass), and bolts out of his apartment. Mary did say that he made one more comment during her haste to leave and that was, "You don't have to rush out, we just can't do brunch.

So here we are, she's mad as hell at him, and truth be told, at herself as well for playin herself like that, and now looking to me(PimpSay) for a sympathetic ear. So Sunday morning didn't go well for her, and now Sunday afternoon aint gonna provide the kind of relief she wants. Well, as a friend in this situation, I see it as my responsibility to give her what she needs right now and not what she wants. And what she needed was the truth, so here we go.........I started out by asking her the obvious question, "Was that the first time you ask him if he was seeing anyone?" and I got the typical response, "Yes, but he.." I stopped her right there and began to answer her. Why would he say anything? From a man's perspective, if you don't ask us if we're seeing anyone else, we take that as a sign that it doesn't matter to you at that point. And as men, we're hoping that point takes us all the way to the finish line without you asking. This way, it gives us an out, maybe not morally, but definately socially. And really, that's all we need. All we're trying to do is get into your heaven, not 'The Heaven'.

Then Mary came at me with a really good point. He probably would have just lied if i had asked him about a girlfriend. I'm thinking to myself, maybe, but he damn sure didn't lie when he told you you had to get your ass out before his girlfriend showed up, but i kept that to myself. Instead i went in another direction, one more politically correct. Yes, he could have lied, but at least you would have done one of the things you as a woman are suppose to do before you give up the cookie. And that way, if he turned out to be the cookie monster, at least you would have had a right to bitch and complain. It's like voting, if you don't like the way things are being run and you didn't exercise your right to vote, then shut-up and take it.

Okay, so when you do ask the question early on, taking us at our word may not be the most prudent course of action if you're looking to take this somewhere. But there are such things as clues. For instance, you guys were together on the regular for three straight weeks. During that time, did his phone ever ring, he look at it and say something like, "One of my boys, I'll call him back later"? NEWS FLASH!......We always take calls from our boys, why, because it's safe. We don't have to speak in code. We can make you blush by telling our boys that we have to call them back because we are spending time with our baby. So don't tell me in those three weeks his phone never rang around you.

Three weeks together, day in and day out and you never met anybody he knows? Is that possible? Not just weekends right, day in and day out right? Okay. Ladies, maybe you can answer this question for me. At what point do you stop thinking it's all about you and begin to think that maybe he's hiding you from the rest of his world? Four, five weeks, what? He knows your whole crew and all you know is his pizza delievery man.

The other thing I felt Mary needed to hear was why so quick on given out the cookie if you were in the market for something longterm and one on one? If you had waited past the three week mark, playa playa would have been caught up in a time management situation. He already 'Over Paid' for you by seeing you 24/7 and had you trained to expect that. Now ole' girl is back in town and he aint got no wiggle room.

So ladies, if it matters to you, ask the question early on and take your women's intuition with you where ever you go. And if it doesn't matter to you, then hell, don't leave mad, just leave.

So, am I wrong, right, did I miss something? Let me know. Although the game is always the same, there are some very creative people out there putting their own stank on the s**t.

I welcome all comments.