If you want to communicate with your man....

I think we men get unfairly criticized as not being good communicators or not being communicators at all. How many times do we have to hear the following:
• You never want to talk
• How come you don’t talk to me?
• What are you, the strong, silent type?
• How was your day and fine is not an answer?
• Is it me?
• Did I do something?
• Blah, blah, blah

Just so you know, we talk ladies, and most times we have a lot to say. If the goal is communication, then you’ve got to stop trying to get us to talk on your terms.

One example would be to stop greeting your man at the door with “We need to talk”. When that’s the first thing we hear when we walk in the door, we begin the process of shutting down. In our minds, under our breath or sometimes out loud, we’re saying “Here we go again”. At that point, the best you can hope for is to get your lecture in. At worse, an argument breaks out and the opportunity to communicate never gets a chance.

So like I was saying, you’ve got to stop trying to get us to communicate on your terms and start communicating on ours. Let’s take that same example. Instead of greeting us with “We need to talk”, how about, “Hey baby, I’m about to get a beer or a glass of wine, wanna join me?” With just that, we begin to relax and unwind from whatever kind of day we’ve had. Bring the drinks over to the couch, sit close and start talking about something mindless like, “Can you believe what Kanye did last night?”, “Why was Michael Jordan so bitter during his hall of fame speech?”, “When Michael Vick gone play?” You think Whitney Houston still gettin high?”. Shit like that.

After 45 minutes to an hour of just kickin it, we are now in the communication zone.
I know some of you are thinking, “A whole hour?” Believe me, whatever it is you want to talk about, you’ve probably been holding onto it and letting it build up for quite a while now. So another hour ain’t gone kill you.

Then, hit us with, “Oh yeah, I’ve been meaning to talk to you about something”. Now, our response will be something like, “What’s up baby girl?”.

Ahhhhhh…Communication :-)

Like they say, it where you start, it’s about you two ending up sharing your thoughts and fully engaged.

Now that example may not work for all of you, but you get the point.
PimpSay….make it work for your situation.

So until next Monday, get me a drink.