35+ and stil single is not the end, but a New chapter for you

Last week, we looked at some reasons why a woman might be 35+ and still single.  And some of you may have taken a moment and done some self reflection over your journey to 35+ and still single and began to feel a bit depressed.  To that I say, let's stop the pity party and start thinking about repositioning yourselves to move forward.  35+ and still single is only a relationship and dating death sentence if you make it one.

Let's start by keeping it real ladies.  Now that you're 35+, here are a few things that you can't do anymore....

....no more short shorts with JUICY written across your ass, can't do it
....no more belly rings if your belly button can hold a half cup of water, can't do it
....no more Beyonce' or Lil' Wayne ring tones, can't do it
....no more multiple hair styles on your head at one time (finger wave, bump'N'curl, a flip and a doobie), can't do it
....please, please, please, no more big hoop earings with your name in it, can't do it.

The first thing I want you to remember is that you're not competing against your 20+ counterparts.  It may seem as if you are, but the guys who are checkin' for them have a completely different agenda they're working on. 

Earlier I mentioned repositioning yourself.  What's your look?  What's your style?  What are some of the things that interests you?  By now, you should have a pretty good idea of what your signature look and style are. And if it hasn't been working for you, don't be afraid to tweak it a little bit. (That's just my nice way of saying break your shit down and start from scratch if you have to, and some of you HAVE to).

Where are all of the available men? The question isn't where are all the available men; the question is, where are you? So please stop asking that question every Saturday night while you're sitting on your couch watching the Real Housewives of Atlanta marathon.  'F' NeNe. 

Those days when all you had to do was just step outside your house, walk your dog around the neighborhood, stroll down the chips and cookies aisle at Stop N Shop, and a man would stop you for conversation and ask for your number, are now in your rear view mirror and moving further away.

Time to shake up your routine a little.  Time to think outside the box and develop some new hobbies and new interests. 

Where are all the available men?

For all of you physical fitness ladies and those of you who want to be, how many of you are into hiking and rock climbing?  Well, you might want to check it out.  There are hiking and rock climbing clubs/orgainizations for all interest levels.  Did I mention that the ratio of men to women is about 10 to 1.  You better get on it.  At those numbers, it won't be a secret for long.

Habla español? No, well you better drop 'jive' as a second language and pick up a real one.  Many community colleges offer foreign languages classes for beginners.  It's a perfect activity for study partners(exchange numbers) and going out in smaller groups (drinks, dinner) to practice the language in conversational settings.  I called 5 community colleges (unscientific study) and found out that the ratio of men to women is about 60/40.  Odds are in your favor ladies.

Now that you're bilingual, it's a perfect time to join a travel club.  Many people love to travel, but have a difficult time getting a group of their friends together to agree on anything, much less a vacation.  So travel clubs are really big for singles.  Built in benefits are that it's safer than going alone, you meet new people (men) with similar interests, you meet people (men) with disposable income and best of all, every man who is on the trip alone is single.  Think about, the last time you had a man, were you letting him go anywhere with a group of single women.  To quote the great orator Whitney Houston, HELL to the NAW!

You want to do something good for your community and make and major difference in the lives others and meet single men?  Think about joining your local search and rescue team.  It is a serious committment and one that's quite fulfilling.  Did I mention that the ratio of men to women is off the charts. 

Check out the calendar for food and wine festivals, especially wine festivals.  More and more men are foodies and even more are dominiating the wine tasting courses offered by the local wine sellers. And for the serious wine enthusiasts, there are the wine schools.  Get to know someone new over a glass of wine or two.  This also provides a great opportunity to do some extra credit work outside of class.

Basically ladies, my point here is that there are plenty of men out there for you to get to know and plenty of places and ways to meet them, but you've got to stop thinking and acting like you're 20+, cause 35 ain't the new 25, it's 30 damn 5! 

It's time to 'do you' a different way, a more interesting and exciting way.  Don't be afraid to turn the page.  Go ahead and see what's behind door number 2, open it, hell, kick it in. 

Until next Monday, PimpSay...
....The rest of your life belongs to you so... live it, love it and make somethin of it.